Dear Katrine,

He doesn’t use other people’s names when he greets them just me.

You said he forgot the name of some people whom he worked with, including Y. Did it happen in a conversation with you that he couldn’t remember the names of those people?

And not only is it hard because I feel excluded but also a people pleaser always making sure people around me were happy, the mere thought that I’m just plain cuasing him discomfort is really really hard.

Are you saying that you feel guilty that he feels discomfort around you? Are you blaming yourself that he isn’t so relaxed around you like he is around other girls?

I feel very defeated in my love life. What I want the most is a partner and I have only had two months of that in my life, and so much heartache. It’s such a rollercoaster for me and a lot of mental energy for me.

I hear you, Katrine. I know it’s hard. But I also know that as you continue on your healing journey and start loving yourself more and more, you will be attracted to emotionally healthier people, people who will be able to return your love. And being in love won’t feel so exhausting and defeating any more. Trust me, Katrine, that time will come.