Hi Lorn,

Before sharing my thoughts about this matter, let me briefly introduce myself. I have been meditating for over 10 years and was able to transform my life through personal growth. Along the way, I had to deal with many issues including sleep issues, and overcame most of them through my practice.

What I have realized is that our thoughts and desires that pop up on the surface level are rooted in our subconscious minds’ beliefs. So, if we can get rid of those beliefs from our subconscious minds, we can naturally let go of surface-level thoughts and fantasies.

From my experience, I noticed that if we do something unconsciously, reacting, it normally intensifies. You mentioned that “I tried to replace it with another habit, for example meditate and try to think of something else, i just couldn’t” this might be the reason, I am just thinking. There may be another reason for it.

I know that meditation works. Because you are interested in meditation, what I suggest is instead of using meditation to replace it, you may find a time that you feel energized and have fewer distractions to meditate. And as you continue your practice, you’ll naturally raise your consciousness by letting go of your surface-level thoughts around different areas of your life.

And you can then use this consciousness to let go of the things that are bothering you.

Because everyone’s situation is different, this may not be a perfect answer for your situation. But I thought that my knowledge might help you to achieve what you are trying to achieve. If you need anything to be clarified or any resource for this, please let me know, I would love to share my knowledge with you.