Dear helcat,

Children can be very cruel. I’m sorry they did that to you. To a child big house = money.

= yes, and tbh till this day i still hate those people who mock my house, and i wont invite those people when my new house is fully constructed….

I also think that whilst on one hand there’s trauma, on the other there are social and cultural concerns that you are very aware of.

That is why your plan with the gifts sounds like a good idea to me.

= Yes, i’m really aware of the social and cultural concerns that’s why im planning to give those gifts….

Even there is another cruel thing in the past, one of my friends doesnt believe my family owns food markets, housing complex because of my small house…. It’s really annoying, and im still annoyed till now…. Yes her house is big, but it’s not that our family cant build a house like that, we can build a house like that…

On the plus side, I’m sure that her parents are very aware of your financial capabilities, especially since your company just built their house. I’m sure that they will make her aware of the situation.

= No, my company didnt built their house, when i visited their house… her mother ask me what my company does and i told her our company build and sell houses… i really wanted to explain further that time but the conversation topic changed…

 
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You never know, your parents may be considering building a house sooner than you think. Since you are dating they may be considering your future. Being married one day and raising children of your own. It might be worth having a discussion about it.

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<div class=”bbp-pagination”>= yes, because as u know in my country’s culture,  couples who get married still lives with the husband parents… it’s a normal thing here…. But some also choose to be independent and live individually after marriage…. It’s a matter of choice…</div>
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<div>And yesterday i’ve discussed it with them… and yes they’ve planned on building a new house but dont know when will it start constructing as they’re still thinking of 2 choices…</div>
<div>Using the land to build 1 big house with a garden or use the land to build 2 separate house with a garden… so my parents said when i married later on i’ll live in a separate house but just beside them…. But if the land is used to build 2 separate house it’ll definitely be smaller than the “1 big house with a garden”</div>
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