Hi Helcat,

I know that miscommunication and conflict are unavoidable parts of engaging with other people, especially in an online forum, since it’s easy to misconstrue someone’s written words and the intentions behind them. I also totally understand the desire to clear the air. (And just so you know, I appreciate all the time you’ve devoted to helping people in the forums. You’ve done a lot of good, and I know your heart is always in the right place!)

That being said, I’d like to gently request two things.

First, can you please only comment on a post if your comment is related to the thread/offering advice to a poster?

Secondly, can you please respect Anita’s wishes and stop addressing her instead of trying to seek closure?

You’re welcome to report anything you find problematic, and the moderator will then decide what to do from there. But you might want to let the posters themselves decide if a reply is offensive or in violation of community standards. Sometimes what seems insensitive to one person might seem direct but helpful to another.

Thank you for trying to keep this a safe space for authentic sharing! And thank you in advance for honoring these requests.

Lori

P.S. I just saw your response to the thread you started last week. I don’t believe there are any other unknown policies. You’re right, I should update the guidelines, and I will do that now!