Hi Dave

It’s nice to hear that you had a short family trip. It’s a shame that the older kids are catching on. That would be a challenging conversation to have.

Your second couples counselling session sounds intense.

The communication and initiative comment is confusing to me. You seem to communicate well. What exactly does she want you to take initiative with?

I can understand your feelings of feeling out of control and emotional. It seems like the ball is in your wife’s court to decide what to do.

I can understand wanting you to have other activities in your life.

So do feel like your wife is holding back because she feels like if she goes all in then she believes that you would go back to how things normally are?

I can understand the confusion caused by your wife’s hesitation when it comes to making this decision.

I would also add that it’s not the worst sign. She might not be ready yet. But she’s not on her way out of the door either. If all she can do is wait and see, it’s technically her trying to give you a chance.

What exactly she wants you to do in the relationship, I’m not sure. You’ll have a better idea of that.