Hi Tee,

yeah my concerns have been there and I have asked her about it and tried to get her talk about it, when it came to her debts she would just say they aren’t my concern and she is taking care of it and as long as bills were being paid why should I worry. I’ve tried to get her to open up about her daughter throughout the years but she just seems to give short answers and it never felt like the whole picture. I know her pregnancy was traumatic and the father has never been on the scene.

I suppose I did feel guilty for pushing and that I was judging her, that was never my intention I just wanted her to open up so I could better understand why that relationship is how it is. Whenever she did talk about it money or her child it seemed she thought the bare minimum explanation was enough or she would get upset, I didn’t want her to feel like I was interrogating so would let it go. She would say that for that type of conversation she needed advanced notice, which kinda sounded like she needed time to prepare answers she thought I would want to hear, not necessarily the whole truth.