Hey Tee, thanks for the reply.

I have been doing a lot of research to understand what she may be going through and I realise this is a difficult time for her. We still haven’t spoken but I do want to reach out to her as I believe she is afraid too now and probably feels a lot of guilt about what happened. She may also be thinking I deserved better.

I am not sure how to fully offer my help from afar as you mentioned above but I will be sending her a card and poem to just check in on her and let her know she has my complete support. Should I wait for her to reach out first though? I feel like she may not for a very long time, I just don’t know how long I should wait either.

It is a very difficult time for me indeed as I care for her deeply but I am slowly processing everything better each day and doing my best to continue with my own journey for now.

I genuinely feel like she did love me but had to emotionally detach herself from the relationship in order to protect both of us. I am still hopeful for the future and I just want to show her I can be a friend and not just intimately as I know right now it won’t work with her past. I do want to wait for her and let her know she has me as a shoulder to lean on and in the meantime focus on myself in whatever way I can.