Dear Tricia

It is so hard when you get mixed messages. Our mind likes to hang on to any little sign of hope  and also does not like not having answers/closure. Mindfulness and meditation help you see these mind tendencies as they arrive and help you step back from them so that they eventually lessen in intensity and frequency.

Some may say when you meet your ex imagine him as fat & old!

Are you close to anyone at work who will be at is event as well? if so maybe you could ask them to hold your hand metaphorically. The best way thru is to appear cool calm & confident, look your best without it look like you are trying too hard, so clothing that is comfortable & that you feel makes you look good ie dont were ultra high heals when you are used to wearing flats. If alcohol is on offer,  remember that it hinders our judgement and interferes with the control of our emotions.

Your Ex has not acted honorably and you do not have to be his friend especially since you are living in different locations. polite cordial indifference is the best that he deserves from you.

I wish you all the best

Roberta