Dear Tee,

It was lovely reading you again.

Thank you for your time and a quick answer.

I will take your advice to my heart and try to apply it next time.

Unfortunately, with every failed relationship, I feel more and more discouraged to meet new men. Also there is a matter of trust.

Most of those men I’ve met online but the last one (the policeman) I’ve met in real time. Also before him there was one man (met at his work place) I went out on a few good dates. We held hands, kissed and had a good time. And then he ghosted me. His friend told me that he expected me to initiate sex with him. He is used to it with other women and if he doesn’t get it, he leaves (without a word). That was a painful experience as I got my answer a few months later from his friend.

I was also in a long term relationship with a divorced (or so I thought at that time) man with 2 kids. I helped him to look after his small kids (they stayed with him every 2 weeks). He blamed his ex for leaving him but said that he moved on and is ready for a new woman.

Long story short, when I started to push for marriage, he told me that he is not sure if he has the final divorce papers. He showed me only the first part/stage of a divorce but not final. There were no warning signs at the beginning. His ex lived in a different place, he was always available, never pushed for sex, always responsive, met with me at any time. So after that I realised that there’s no sure way to know if he is really divorced.

Probably they had an agreement to not divorce completely, so their assets stayed within the family. I never got to know the whole story as even his family was good at hiding everything.

So there you have it, my love story in a nutshell 😊 I wish to write in a more positive tone but that’s it. I think I’m closer and closer to becoming a cat lady 🐱

Just an update: I’ve sent a text to the last guy (separated policeman that pushed for sex) to ask how he was doing and he red it but did not reply. I guess not kissing him on that 1 date was a deal broker for him or maybe there is another reason?

Tee, what mistakes do you think I’m making with all those men? How would you react on my place?

In advance thank you for listening to my story and sharing your thoughts. You’re so precious. I appreciate you so much 🙏

Big kiss 🌼 🌸

Dafne