Dear Dafne

I have been married twice and have a child from each one. I was also what could loosely be described as a Wild child.

I have come across several women who have struggled with intimacy due to parents being either cold or saying that sex is wrong/dirty & not to be enjoyed and definitely not to be indulged in before marriage. Also historically rape within marriage was not considered at all, you belonged to your husband and he could do almost what he liked whenever he liked, the woman just had to lay back  and think of Britian! Womans sensuality has  nearly always been ignored.

I have not a clue about predestination and I know that karma is a vast and complicated subject.

As for the man in question I would give him a wide berth as I doubt he will change his perception of women or even be interested in trying to.

In buddhism we have a precept about not indulging in sexual misconduct which I held for many years until I upgraded it to celibacy.

I wish you all the best

Roberta