Dear Judy:

I am so very sorry for your huge loss.

You are welcome, and thank you for submitting your heart-felt, moving, inspiring post. You gave the testimony of a loving mother doing her best to live by her daughter’s message.

Your daughter’s message:  “There is ‘only love’ that matters in this life here, on this plane. That there is purpose to my life. That she has purpose where she is and I have purpose where I am. Only love.”

Thank you for caring to let me know that my words reached you in a positive way: it is kind, and indeed loving of you to bother to let me know.

“Anita, your deep response to Andromeda- about how humans fail humans IS HUMAN, saved my soul today. It is so hard to live through such traumatic deaths of loved one’s let alone fighting those guilt and shame thoughts on top of just rising out of bed“- may guilt and shame be peeled off your grief; your grief is painful enough.

Your daughter’s message: There is Only Love.                                 Only Love:  Not Shame, Not Guilt, not for you.

I wish you well on your job interview tomorrow. If you would like to communicate with me further about emotional regulation, which you say is your biggest obstacle, and about anything else, you are welcome to start your own thread- if you want to-  by going to the top of the page to FORUMS, scrolling down to ALL FORUMS and take it from there.

I hope that Andromeda reads your message when she is ready, and that she will get back to you, if she is able. My heart goes out to the two of you.

anita