Dear Sarika:

Welcome back to the forums; we communicated for a short time back in March 2018,, more than 5.5 years ago.

I am sad to read how rude and cruel your father has been to you for so long, and that he had such control over your life

“I reached the age of 10… I came to the realization that my parents never celebrated my birthday, which was in stark contrast to the experiences of other children my age… and by the age of 9 or 10, I began resorting to theft within my own home and fabricating elaborate stories about myself“- I am guessing that not being GIVEN birthday parties and gifts.. you GAVE yourself whatever you could get your hands on (stealing) and fabricating stories, as in making-believe that your life story was better than it was.

“As I grew older and started working, my father assumed control… When I began earning, he continued to manage my money, providing me with only what I needed for basic expenses while making investment decisions on my behalf… The controlling behavior and constant belittlement from my father have greatly impacted my self-esteem throughout my life. I am now in need of a fresh perspective and guidance on how to navigate these challenges“-

– before I reply further, can you tell me about your current marriage (CoNgRaTuLaTiOnS): if it’s a good marriage? And does your father still control your- your husband’s finances..  ?  What role otherwise does he play in  your life now?

anita