Dear Milda

Congratulations on Taking a step back before answering your mothers text.

It is interesting that she was not asking you to fix the situation between her and your dad nor was she blaming you either.

When I have a tricky communication to deal with I spend a little time centering & calming my self. I then write my reply but I do not send it but rather meditate for 10 minutes using the phrase ” is that so?” regarding what I have written, checking in that it is in alignment with my core aspirations and then I amend and repeat the process till I get a YES. I find this breaks the guilt/rumination cycle. Even years later I am still feel that my best self communicated on those occasions.

I hope this technique is of use to you

Roberta