Dear Luna:

Welcome back to the forums!

You asked for “words of comfort if not some wise insights… Your insights would be most appreciated in how I can overcome the emptiness I feel right now. Your experiences are most welcome” in regard to a friendship that has faded out for some time as the two of you pursued different ways; a friendship that was one-sided in many ways, but you have put a blind eye to the one-sidedness because you needed her. You fought for what the friendship was before fading out, but the more you fought, the emptier you felt. You decided to move on from the friendship, but she hasn’t moved on. You didn’t give her a proper explanation to moving on because you feel it’d be unnecessary at this point.

My response is about my personal experience (some of it may- or not- resonate with you), and it will include words of comfort, best I can.

I know Emptiness. The no-one-is-there-for-me Emptiness. This I-am-all-alone type of emptiness, such that took me into countless going down the rabbit hole mental experiences that further confused me.  I tried so hard and for so long to understand and was not able to understand enough to bring myself up from the rabbit hole.. into the light, so to speak.

There is certain amount of alone-ness that is simply too much to bear. Togetherness (aka love) is a real, non-negotiable human need. Love and Light are synonymous. Acute alone-ness/ loneliness and darkness are synonymous.

How to overcome the emptiness, you asked. My answer: reach out to others, as you have done here, on your thread, but be discerning: some people you reach out to are too preoccupied with their own problems.. or rabbit holes, to have space for you. Some people have agendas that won’t fit you. Some people project into you other people in their lives and react to.. what you didn’t mean to say, etc. Many are angry.

Right above, I tried to reach out to you, to present to you my understanding and see if you share it.. and maybe we can have a meeting of the minds, or better yet, a meeting of the hearts.

Words of comfort: May your emptiness be filled with (chosen) togetherness, a togetherness that will fill your life with light!

anita