Dear Jay:

(I am the one adding the boldface feature to the following quote):  “There was quite a lot of positive body language from her, granted there was a moderate amount of wine involved…  The evening ended with what I would refer was a firm hug and ‘lets do coffee‘. Next day I send her a msg saying how nice it was to see her and let’s do coffee, 4 days later I get a response and it seems its (now) been defined as a ‘business’ coffee… What would you do?”-

– offer her: let’s do (a moderate amount of) wine, instead of coffee…?

Rarely do I suggest a simple solution, but maybe it is appropriate here, since as you know, alcohol relaxes  and caffeine does the opposite.

* I am not promoting alcohol as a way of life when dating or otherwise.

anita