Dear Natalia

When we give a gift we should relinquish ownership of it and allow the recipient to do with it what they will. You have offered and made a room for your father, it is his choice when &  or whether he picks up this gift.

Something done resentfully is not a gift.  It is a burden to both parties.  One of the techniques I learnt from Sravasti Abbey this week is to go and sit somewhere public like a cafe or train station and look at each person who comes in/ passes by and mentally wish that “may  they be happy”.  This helps us with connection & helps open the heart.

I had to work hard on my inner life to enable me to look after my mother when she had cancer, buddhist teachings nourish & help me each & every day as I look after my father. It is harder to look after some one with whom we have not had a good relationship for what ever reason. I hope there is a support group near you for such as ACoA Adult Children of Alcholics.

Instead of worrying, enjoy the luxury of the  freedom that you have in this moment.

Kind regards

Roberta