Dear Seaturtle:

I arrived at my answer (for now)  within 2-3 minutes and had a boring 7-8 minutes on the treadmill: N turned the non-crying option to the manipulating via expressing anger/intimidating option that’s totally available to men such as he exercised during the cash incident (an option kept down by heavy-duty daily weed smoking), and F turned the non-crying-option to the whining option (that’s what those housecleaning sessions were about, weren’t they? You-don’t-love-me, wah wah waahhhh. But no tears.

anita