Dear Blazkowich:

“I am kinda afraid of loving too much now, because she once told me she was in a toxic relationship for 4 years, I sometimes reflect am I that bad that a toxic relationship lasted for 4 years but mine where I was always supportive lasted hardly 4 months? I am afraid of loving anymore“- don’t make lifetime decisions (ex., to not love anyone anymore) based a few words that she (or anyone) tells you. If she told you: I was in a toxic relationship for 4 years, that’s 9 words that leave a lot of questions unanswered: what does “toxic” mean to her? What was the nature of the relationship: did she ever meet him, was there ever a date.. etc. Was there a relationship at all (did she lie)?

“If I pulled away the first time she told me she wanted space, at least she would’ve known my value…Did I do too much to drive her away or make her value me less?“- the only thing I can figure is that you didn’t pull away from her completely when she wanted space.

How are you, Blazkowich, sleeping any better???

anita