Hi Roberta,

Thank you for your kind reply. Here is my answers for your questions.

1.Please can I ask what makes you think that your mother will not cope/flourish if you are not there.

=Her health [have HBP, Diabetes, severe backpain] and her age [60] need someone to take care/monitor her. So as a daughter i want to take care of her and give her the proper rest that she needed in this age eventhough she wont show any tiredness or fatigues.

2. What are you specifically trying to protect your mother from? ie what do you perceive her burdens to be and has she informed you what she feels her burdens if any are?
=Im not trying to protect my mother from anything, I just want give her some way or help to speak up for herself. She cannot say ‘NO’ to her children as she take it as a habit.So as im the third person seeing eveything she is undergoing, i speak in her place that give her better choices putting her health in priority. She also already tell and show me some signs [ she become so stress, cannot get enough sleep, need to cook variety of foods, tired, etc].