Dear alette:

I am sorry that you feel like you are breaking again! It seems to me that he is selfish, that you deserve an explanation for why he broke up a 2-year relationship with you; you asked for an explanation and he refuses to give it to you. He feels better not giving you an explanation, and seems like he doesn’t care that you feel worse for not being given an explanation. I am guessing that you didn’t notice him being selfish during the relationship?

“For a week I thought I have been okay…  today he called me , I thought maybe he wanted to talk, but unfortunately he wanted to know if am at home so that he could drop my stuffs… I feel like I am breaking again“- I think that it is your hope that he wanted to talk followed by the disappointment about him not wanting to talk, that re-opened your breakup wound. It’d be way better for you to not hope again and then, disappointed again, so that the wound can heal. How do you feel about his seeming lack of empathy for you, in not giving you an explanation?

anita