Dear Anita,

I will re-read and respond more thoroughly tomorrow but for now wanted to share how I feel about it.
It makes me wonder if you are saying I was the cause of the relationship being an emotional roller coaster?

“Re-reading your complaints about N in your 2 original posts, it’s clear that you required and demanded of him complete and ever present adoration, and when you didn’t get it, you were devastated. This factor would cause the failure of a healthy intimate relationship with ANY man.”

My desire for him and I having deeper conversations feeling more seen by him is an unrealistic expectation in the first place and N was a perfectly good partnership that I ruined?

I wrote:
“I am going to start writing a book. I feel like I am at such an interesting time in my life where I am heading for great things“
and you responded:

eading for GREAT things (starting and publishing a book) is bringing me back to the topic of my confusion and yesterday’s study:”

Am I delusional for believing I am bound for great things? I was meaning like I am only getting closer to where I am meant to be and who I am meant to be with. I don’t think I’m going to be something so amazing I just feel like I am nearing who I am and the best place for me.

If this is all this is true (that I required too much and made the relationship not work after he tried so hard to accommodate me) then N was too good for me?

I could be misreading, I am very tired and will return in the morning to absorb it better. So my fear is true? I am a narcissist?

Seaturtle