Dear Kshiti:

You are very welcome! I am glad the NPARR strategy worked for you.

“Regarding radical acceptance, I don’t know why but it makes me feel anxious to think about the idea of acceptance. Most of the times when I think about accepting things and letting them go, my anxiety grapples me back and it becomes more difficult. Any suggestions?“-

– when you think about accepting negative circumstances that you can’t change/ can’t control (current or future), it scares you because of the feeling of having no control.. right?

If this is what it is about, the only suggestion I have is to focus in your every day life on what you can control, and practice your control. The more you practice control over your circumstances/ life, the less afraid you will be of having no control over what you can’t control.  I remember a couple of years ago, I was folding laundry and felt anxious because my mother folded clothes perfectly, and I didn’t. It then occurred to me: wait a minute, I can fold my clothes any way I want to. I don’t have to fold clothes my mother’s way! And I have been okay with how I fold clothes ever since.

In your life, Kshiti, find opportunities- be as small as the one I just described- to choose your own ways of doing things and be okay with your chosen ways. This is a beginning of exercising control over your life and feeling okay about it.

anita