Dear Alette

I guess what may have happened is that while after there is a spilt, nostalgia can raise its head and we remember more of the good times and less of the bad.  With the chocolate is it a gentle reaching out if he is a kind genuine person? or if he is manipulative and narcissistic then its a hook to reel you back in. The main thing is it is up to you how you respond. ie a short text thank you for the chocolate – polite but not offering anything further or thank you for the chocolate that was a kind thought, it was nice to catch up with you – a gesture that is an invitation to further communication or no text gives the message you are sending is” back off I am not interested”.