Hey Paradoxy,

thank you for your reply.

It does paint a different picture – so you’re saying that she wasn’t exposed to sexual exploitation as a child/youth. That she wasn’t groomed to become a sex worker. Although her Aunt1, at whose place she stayed for a few years, wasn’t against marrying a man to get citizenship and wealth:

In the time that she spent with her aunt, she was not groomed to be used as a sex worker. The only behavior that her aunt revealed is her own decision to marry men to gain citizenship, wealth etc.

So did her aunt get married to a rich guy?

Aunt1 wasn’t happy about B’s relationship with Al. She didn’t like Al and tried to convince B to leave him. But B refused and stopped speaking to her aunt for about a year:

Then Aunt 1 (the problematic one) found out about her relationship and took it upon herself to be a good mother and talked to the man and realized that Al is a irresponsible man who did not want to take on B’s responsibilities. She told B to leave Al because she knew Al was not a good man but B, on her own accord, rejected her aunt and decided to stay with him. After which, she stopped talking to aunt 1 for a year.

I wonder what were B’s responsibilities that Al didn’t want to take on himself?

The other aunt (Aunt2) at some point wanted B to become a nun:

She had good influence from her family members during this time. Even to the point where one of her aunts (Aunt 2) wanted her to become a nun.

But when B started sleeping with Al, Aunt2 seems to have accepted it. She let her stay at her place during the weekends, while on weekdays she stayed at Al:

Al told her that he was leaving her cause of her restrictions, to which she decided to let go of the restrictions and started having sex with him, staying at his home during week days and living at her Aunt 2’s place on the weekends.

It also seems B was conflicted about starting a sexual relationship with Al, but he threatened to leave her, so she agreed.

About a year later, around the time B was starting college, B and Aunt1 resumed their relationship:

Her aunt and she started talking when she started college again. That was almost the same time that we met. She was desperate to talk to her and she missed her.

she did not even maintain contact with her for an entire year until she needed her again.

Was she desperate to talk to her aunt because around that time, she found out that Al was cheating on her? (She had saved up money to start studying at the college where we met, and saved up enough money to rent her own place too, and he was planning to move closer too. But then Al confessed to cheating on her. Then they broke up, after which, she met T.)

And then, in that moment of fragility, her aunt told her about the married man looking for a young girl for sex? She first gave him her sister’s number, but the guy didn’t want a bit older woman, who already gave birth, so she (Aunt2) suggested B. And B accepted it:

She told her that there was a man who was looking for a young girl for sex. But the aunt told her that she gave her sister’s number to the man instead. But she already had a child so the man wanted B instead. B did not question anything. Aunt 2 started sending the money.

I mean… that’s pretty incredible! First, the fact that the man was inquiring at her aunt about the sex job – is quite telling. And then Aunt1 proceeding to suggest her sister (Aunt2) for the job… is also incredible. And then the sister, not meeting the man’s requirements, proceeded to enlist B.

OMG. The story is quite appalling… but it also shows that her aunts are not some good, caring women who instilled positive values in B, as you said (She had good influence from her family members during this time.) They are in fact immoral women who sought to prostitute their own niece for money.

Since B agreed (and wasn’t at all shocked by the proposition), it tells me that this wasn’t strange for her at all (provided that it all happened, of course. Provided that she didn’t invent the whole story about prostitution). But if it did happen, then she must have been conditioned and groomed into accepting this as something quite normal.

Women don’t go prostitute themselves because they are “stupid”. I am sure she didn’t either. She did it because of either external pressure and expectation (coming from her aunts), or an inner compulsion, perhaps feeling that she is dirty, and then acting it out.

Sometimes people behave in horrible ways because they believe they are bad, they are filthy and rotten inside. If she believes something like that about herself, this can be why she did it.