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anita
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Dear gen Z, Millennial, not lazy 99-Seaturtle:

he made a comment about it, ‘water bottles are way better, the fluoride blocks the third eye.’“- he talks the talk, but doesn’t walk the walk.

The way he speaks has lead me on many times that he is awake, but then in our conversation, as you witnessed, I don’t even understand what he is saying… I wondered ‘am I sleeping? why is what he saying so hard to understand?’“- too much fluoride in someone’s water.

I catch myself in daydreams about leaving a book at his door, or writing him a letter that might open his eyes… I not only want him to see me, but I want him to be proud of me.… My dad’s lack of being proud of me?“- particularly after reading N’s recent talk, I think that he is deceptive, deceiving himself and those who listen to him. When he told you that (he feels or believes that) you don’t owe him anything, that’s the opposite of what he truly feels and believes.

You want deceptive men to be proud of you..? Or a deceptive men to rehabilitate?

I didn’t leave in fear I left because of my gut/intuition“- written on April 11, 2024, six months and five days since you chose the title of your thread: Telling the difference between gut and fear in relationships, congratulations!

At least I didn’t allow him to close my third eye along with his, again“-

– caring for and listening to a deceptive man (“It takes me longer to stop listening because my heart still cares“), makes the lid over the 3rd eye very heavy, heavier and heavier the longer you listen to him.

Why was I so tired… I do believe he exhausted me in some way, and I allowed it to happen for some reason“-

– deceptive talk is exhausting, including your own: “He is supportive, he encourages me to do what I LOVE. We are getting better at communication every day“, Seaturtle, July 29, 2023, in her thread “Please help me, my mind hasn’t rested in 8 months”– unrested, exhausted!

His desire to make me feel badly is outside the relationship the same way it was inside of it”– living with a person who is actively trying to make you feel bad is also exhausting.

Here are a few quotes on self deception (good reads):

“Above all, don’t lie to yourself. The man who lies to himself and listens to his own lie comes to a point that he cannot distinguish the truth within him, or around him, and so loses all respect for himself and for others. And having no respect he ceases to love.”― Fyodor Dostoevsky.

“I lie to myself all the time. But I never believe me.” ― S.E. Hinto

“Reality denied comes back to haunt.” ― Philip K. Dick

A great deal of intelligence can be invested in ignorance when the need for illusion is deep.” ― Saul Bellow.

I think that the 1st quote applies to N, and the fourth perfectly applies to you, in regard to not having seen N as he is, 3rd eye having been closed.

anita