Dear Meatball:

You are welcome! Good to read that you are  working on your co-dependency issues and anxious attachment style, and with a therapist’s help. Also, good to read that you “don’t hold out any hope that she would leave, get help and want to come back.“- sometimes, in certain contexts, hope is not a good thing.

“I am trying to figure out exactly how much financial burden I should take on for her to get a place.  The last thing I’m going to do is put her out on the street. Her daughter is planning to stay here, but that could also bring a new set of issues.  She has 9 months until she’s 18 and is not close to her father and just doesn’t understand her mother at this point“- (1) it is very kind of you to think of having her daughter stay with you, and it is decent of you to not want her mother out on the street, (2) I understand your concern regarding finances, and regarding contact with the mother if you have her daughter living with you.

Since her daughter is not yet 18, legally still a child, is she qualified for government sponsored help in regard to housing, since her mother can’t properly take care of her?

Maybe her mother is qualified for such help, being that she is emotionally unwell…?

anita