Dear Pandinha:

“However, he quickly started to make a lot of sexual, dirty jokes… I told him that I was in love with him. After that, he got even more straightforward with the sexting, the cheesiness, the pics and.. I kept being very stimulated, so I honestly thought I was desiring him, that I wanted to be with him, etc… Then, one day, when we were videochatting, looking at him started bothering me. I thought he looked gross and I felt very repulsed about the idea of even kissing him… all the things I wanted to do with him, the excitement is simply gone… I felt like he played me… I felt like he fooled me…  I don’t really feel like talking to him anymore… Gladly will wait for your input… on… what this might be.“-

– here are 3 possibilities in regard to what this might be. Any of the following may be true to you.. or not, or a combination of the following may be true to you: (1) one of your parents taught you that men only want one thing (sex), they will say anything to get you to have sex with them, and you should not be fooled by what they say (that you are pretty, that they love you, etc.), (2) one of your parents taught you that sex is a bad thing, that you are a good girl, and that good girls don’t do bad things, (3) when you were a child, you were betrayed by a person you trusted (perhaps a parent, perhaps another family member).

Any of these true to you?

anita