Hi Pandinha

I have a quick question. How long have you been in contact with the guy since your holiday?

I think this might determine if things were moving too quickly or moving too quickly for you, someone who doesn’t like dating.

Have you heard of the term Asexual before? Someone who is asexual might enjoy the companionship of having a partner but might not be interested in the sexual side of things. You might have some luck “dating” within the Asexual community.

I struggled with not being attracted to people for a long time. I found that I tend to be attracted to people very rarely on an intellectual basis. There are all kinds of styles of relationships, attraction and dating out there it doesn’t mean that you are broken or that you have to conform to social norms in regards to dating.

I can understand feeling a certain way when he said that he only helped you to stay in contact. It would make me feel like he didn’t care about me as a person and he was just trying to use me for his own interests. Did you feel this way?

Wishing you all the best! ❤️🙏