Dear Helcat,

It certainly is unfortunate when people stress about things and don’t share, because we aren’t mind readers. It sounds like your partners ability to express how he needs you to be there for him, speaks to an emotional intelligence/ self awareness that my partner lacked.

 “I’m sorry for making you feel that way, it was not my intent.”

– It is amazing how validating this can be to say to a partner, I can imagine it being said to me in moments of feeling hurt and it would have meant everything to me to see that he could see I was in pain.

– I have so much appreciation for the way you and your partner speak to eachother.

-I will let you know if what you analyze/ say about me ever feels misplaced. I do my best to decide for myself when something someone says is truly about me, or about them.

Seaturtle