Dear Paradoxy,

You’ve just rejected everything I suggested, even laughed some things off:

Hell no, not this dude. This is not the first time he has lied and it is not that hard for him cause he is used to it.

the primary trauma is hers

Lol do u think B or my parents care about boundaries??? LOL

Pretty sure she will find a way to make a fool out of me. I just have to be prepared.

My father will find some way to intervene,

Lol like that will work against him.

They know my schedule too well. That won’t work.

they will demand that I talk when I get home.

may be narcissistic and a liar and etc, but if I ignore her when she actually needs my help and something happens, I have to live with that in my conscience.

You came her looking for help, but refuse all help. I guess it’s not because you think I am dumb and my advice is bs, but you believe you cannot be helped?

If you believe you cannot be helped and that you are completely stuck in your current situation, with no chance to change it even for an inch, then unfortunately I cannot help you either. You also categorically refused to go to therapy as well.

As for Asperger’s, one of the symptoms you mention is “lack of bonding with parents”. No wonder about that, because your parents were and still are abusive. The way you were raised largely determines how you are now. It has an impact on your emotional health, including communication skills as well. Because how we communicate is greatly influenced by our self-esteem and in general our view of self and others.  If either is negative, our communication skills will be affected too.

But I would really prefer not having to wear clown makeup.

But you seem to believe you have to and have no other choice.