Hi Bibi

Well initially in dating there is an exciting phase, but things calm down afterwards when you are with someone who isn’t full of drama and emotional turmoil. Perhaps you are worried about that change in feelings and judging it? Questioning if it means that you don’t really like the person anymore?

As a teenager all we know about love is from movies and songs. For a while I just pottered around from person to person. Is this love? No. Until finally I found it.

The songs and movies make it all seem so dramatic, passionate and exciting. That is what sells after all. But true love is all about respecting each other and caring about each other.

That being said, there are people that you can care about as a friend, who treat you with respect and vice versa but aren’t attracted to.

You don’t need to answer this next part if you don’t want to. Did you have any difficulties in childhood? I ask this because there is a phenomenon where if you had difficulties you become very strongly attracted to people who cause you difficulties. Since you mentioned an ex treating you badly before, I thought that it might be relevant. It does take time and therapy but it is possible to change this type of phenomenon.

At the end of the day, if you don’t want a boyfriend and would prefer to be alone right now that is okay. You are young and people very rarely stay with partners that they met when they were teenagers.

I’m curious about what you think about all of this?

Love and best wishes! ❤️🙏