Hi Clara

I’m sorry that things are so difficult at the moment. It sounds like you have some good plans to help manage your feelings.

It is difficult to overcome problems in a relationship when someone is just focused on whether they are happy or not. Being happy is nice and overall something to want. But when serious relationship difficulties occur happiness isn’t a big feature. The decision is whether or not to work hard and try to make things better. Things can be difficult for a time until you start to see the hard work paying off.  I’m sorry that she chose to give up. As a long term partner, that is very difficult to be on the receiving end of.

I have always wanted a tattoo. I kept changing my mind about the image, so I had a rule for myself. If I can be happy with my decision for 6 months I should get it. Perhaps a similar rule may be helpful for deciding for you?

It sounds like you have been dreaming of having a pet for a long time. Perhaps this is why you are more confident with that decision? Would you prefer a dog or a cat? If a dog, what kind? The different kinds have very distinct qualities and energy levels. It is important to pick something that suits your lifestyle.

Love and best wishes! ❤️🙏