Hi Dena

I’m sorry to hear about your difficulties with child abuse, adoption, bullying and mean people.

I can empathize with your situation because believe it or not, I come from a similar situation.

What helped me to heal was understanding that childhood circumstances are random and entirely out of control. It had very little to do with me personally, I was just there in those situations.

Also, love is valid when it is found anywhere. It doesn’t necessarily have to come from family or a partner. Those friends that you do cherish, their love is meaningful.

It’s good that you are seeking therapy. If you ask them to help you with managing boundaries and developing self-compassion that will work wonders for developing self-love and protecting you from not so great people in the future.

When we have difficulties in childhood, that becomes normality and we are drawn to recreating those experiences. With dating in particular it is important to be mindful of this. You deserve someone who treats you well! You deserve to be happy!

I promise you that there are some good people out there! There are fewer good and bad people than there are average people. The trick is learning to be able to tell the difference. Therapy will help you with that. Build up a support network of good people!

Congratulations on your healing so far, I can tell that you will be successful in your journey. 😊 These things do take time though. I wish you the best of luck!

Love and best wishes! ❤️🙏