Hi Seaturtle

Well, myself and Anita are around regularly.

Yeah I’m doing a final this week! I’m studying IT. Ooh philosophy of death sounds interesting and I agree it is a fascinating subject. Such big questions! I’m sure that you’re going to have a lot of fun.

I love your enthusiasm for the subject and your creativity in regards to your ideas for essays. The Tibetan Book of the Dead is a great read about all of this. There is also a commentary on it called The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying.

He is doing his best to learn to walk. He is using furniture and things to hold onto while he moves around. It feels like the teething is never ending. You are right though it does get better and worse.

Right now is a stressful period. My dog almost died the other week. We are waiting to see if he has cancer. On the plus side, his blood tests are improving. My cat is missing. I’m literally dealing with prank calls telling me she’s dead because anyone can respond to a missing poster. On the plus side, my neighbours kids think that they saw her.

My husband and I are having some difficulties. I’m finally in a place where I feel like I can work on the relationship because I have figured out being a parent. I hope that we can figure things out.

Wow! I’m happy to hear that you both had such amazing experiences together. You have some fantastic memories already. It’s very romantic of him to invite you along, it does sound like you are doing the right thing focusing on your personal journey. Who knows what will happen later? I’m sure you will stay in touch and find out. 😊

It’s really good that he responded in such an amazing way to you setting your healthy boundaries.

I don’t think you miss windows running on automatic. But the proactive approach perhaps creates new windows.

But I do also believe in fate. In that I believe that certain things happen when we are ready for them to happen.

Whether to avoid bad things or not, is a complicated question.

Bad things can have unintended positive consequences. This is a really complicated subject that people have strong personal opinions about.

I was abused by my biological mother. If I hadn’t been abused by her, I might not have been raped by a classmate in university. If I hadn’t been raped, I would not have been attracted to the idea of long distance dating. I would not have met my husband or had my son. I also ultimately wouldn’t be who I am today.

So whilst terrible things happen, good things can happen as a result.

I think my perspective is to prevent unnecessary suffering where possible. But also, some things are fated experiences and are not preventable. So try not to worry about it too much. There is no sense avoiding good experiences to prevent bad things from happening. That is a way to miss out on life and suffer. Just do your best!

Love and best wishes! ❤️🙏