Hi Prudence

I want to reassure you that there is nothing wrong with not having had any relationships yet at the age of 23.

There is a good chance that you aren’t good at telling if someone is interested in you or not.

Your friend may love you, as a friend.

If you don’t think there is anything wrong with your appearance I doubt that there is anything wrong with it. I’m sorry to hear that the difficulties dating make you feel like you’re unwanted and there is something wrong with you.

For men, dating apps are primarily for having sex. Not for dating specifically. Their goal is generally a one night stand, or multiple of these before they even consider dating. If you sent a normal picture, not a sexy one. That is signalling that you aren’t interested.

Dating is hard these days. Women are expected to be treat terribly. For people who aren’t interested in that, it can be really difficult to find a partner. I think that it is a good thing to have standards though.

A degree of confidence is needed for dating because there is a lot of rejection. But everyone experiences that, not just you. And men experience it doubly so because they generally bear the larger burden of pursuit.

Actively flirting may help to signal interest. I found that to be the most effective way to attract a partner that I was interested in.

It is okay for this process to take some time. The ultimate goal of dating is to consider which qualities you value in a partner. Do you have any thoughts about this?

Love and best wishes! ❤️🙏