Hi Arie

I’m sorry to hear about the difficulties with your family. These things are not easy.

Your family sounds complicated.

I’m glad that the Easter thing went ok – or as well as can be expected. It sounded very awkward to me.

I find it odd that you are expected to go to things that you don’t really want to go to. Then specifically not invited to things that you show an interest in. It is a lot of mixed signals.

It sounds like the sister in law was being honest with you that it is hard for everyone to do things together because people don’t get along.

My family also took this route of doing separate things for special occasions.

It is difficult because whilst your sister in law might want to reconcile there is still conflict with your brother.

I’m sorry that you are blamed for all of this. Your family sounds very stressful to deal with.

It is kind of you to be open to improving the relationship with the sister in law.

In time, it might be easier for you if you emotionally distance yourself from your family. I know it is hard to stop caring because they are your family though.

I imagine these dramas happen over and over again across the years. It doesn’t sound like they are going to stop.

You are honest about your mistakes. But you are not the only one making mistakes and the way that you are treat isn’t fair.

One thing that helped me is understanding that you can only have a relationship with someone if both of you want it. You don’t need to waste your energy on people who aren’t interested. Save it for the people that care about you. ❤️