Hi Anita

Thank you, it is very kind of you to say. 😊

Very true, I agree. Stay true to yourself! You are the expert in your own needs. ❤️

I’m not sure, I can only speak for myself. Well for me, my instinctive bond with my biological mother was damaged to the point that I no longer felt it towards her. I learned to not come to her for any reason and avoid her as much as possible. As a young teen, I began to hate her.

I looked for that bond in other people. Still do really. It left a painful longing that got more easy to bear over time, yet never went away.

I don’t know how to heal it, that is why I was asking. I wonder if you have any thoughts about it? I suspect it is a combination of having a reliable strong social network and being able to meet our own needs. But who knows. For a long time I couldn’t even identify what was causing the pain. It wasn’t until you started talking about your bond with your mother that I understood what had happened with my bond. Maybe it will be helpful actually understanding where that pain comes from.

I’m glad, please let me know if that ever changes. I really value your insight and perspective too! ❤️