K gel you have a big challenge. Ann your advice is excellent – I was working on me when I met someone new. IamMe you are right about the how.
If I may share something that I just realized this week – something I think is helping me to get someone out of my head. I fell for the someone new and it was not a good match. But I was stuck on obsessing about her. Today I thought about her like my ex-wife who I’m on good terms with. By analogy. I do not have the love anymore for my ex-wife. I do care about her as a special person and the mom of our kids. It was no where like this when we split up. Anyway, by thinking like this about the other lady, I am losing the strong feelings. I talked with her the other day and although I still wanted her, now after thinking she’s like my ex, somehow I’m losing my obsession for her. Does this make any sense at all?
Follow Ann’s advice and you will do well. Just watch out for “half” people who will sense your vulnerabilities until you are the whole person.