Hi Joe,

You already know this is tragic. The problems are: you were/are mixed up about a committed relationship, she was really really hurt and she can’t trust you anymore, and the other girl could get hurt. The positive side is your ex is taking care of herself and you are trying to learn from this. I have to say I feel unsettled thinking about it. For you and especially for her it must have been horrible.

Joe besides ‘listening’ I’m not sure if I have any advice. Sometimes we need to face discomfort and just be in it. Joe something in you told you to break it off. But how you did that with the other girl while keeping your sweetheart waiting … Ugh. You need to forgive yourself and realize you’re not perfect and you are learning. Honestly this is something you need to work through and the others have given great advice.

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