Hello Dez,

I actually don’t have an advice for you, but I wanted to commend you for how calmly you are approaching the matter. I am actually kind of like your husband 🙂 I can relate to what you are saying about him. So, I am looking at this situation from another perspective, and the way that you say how you understand his needs is just really very lovely. For a freedom loving and curious person, it’s really scary to be confronted by someone who does not want you to be that way. So your understanding is very much appreciated, at least by me.

What is it that you need? What do you want for yourself? It seems that you want him not to slip away, but that’s about maintaining status quo. If his desires are deep connection and intimacy, then what are your desires?