Hi Tracey

I am sorry for the hard times that you have been through. Anyone can develop self doubts with such incidents.

Hey, whats the worst that can happen if you just be Tracey who doesn’t fear anything that comes her way in this world ? This current BF may leave, you may not find another BF for a long time, you may not have kids, you may not get married, you may not have grand kids, you may not be able to decorate a nursery for your kid etc. The list can go on.

Everything in the list is MAY or MAY not happen, which means there are no guarantees in life. I mean who could understand this better than yourself with your experiences over the last few months ? Think about this for a few moments as it will make you feel calm and peaceful.

Many things (actually all but this might not make sense to you as yet) that happen in our lives are our own projections. If you project self-doubt, your partner will do more such things to confirm that. If you project love and confidence, everyone around you will start doing actions that confirm those feelings. Life is very simple when it comes to feelings and emotions. What you project in your mind and heart is what you get on the big screen of life.

Try flipping things around and enjoy spending time with your new partner without fear, self doubt or any expectations. Just cherish each moment with him and without him. You need to spend some time with yourself as well to work on self. We cant suddenly stop projecting negative emotions – this needs work, patience, self nurture and self love.

Pls give this person the attention he deserves without any underlying agendas or preconceived ideas. Accept him for what he is and he will automatically start accepting you the way you are. We are all perfect as we are. We need to acknowledge that and be kind to ourselves and others. We are harsh to ourselves and others as we fear loss, hurt and all negative experiences. But hey, life is all about balance – negative and positive. No one has all the sadness all the time and no one has all the happiness all the time. A bit of both makes life beautiful and worth being grateful for.

Now wipe those tears (;)) and give us a big smile 🙂

You are worth it and so is this new partner of yours.

Blessings

Jasmine