Hi Jacqueline,

I understand what you’re saying. You are desired by him, but he’s not showing it enough. You want to be pursued sometimes. This is entirely healthy and right of you in my opinion. Also this is potentially a touchy or embarrassing subject so I understand how you wrote your post.

I have a question: could he be afraid of you rejecting him? How does he handle rejection? I can relate to this one… although not so much in an exclusive relationship.

Another question: is he on a different page than you on frequency? That is, if you want to be together more frequently than he does. I ask because I was in a relationship where she made the first move more frequently vs. where I was. Without sharing TMI, in essence I never/rarely got a chance to make the first move. This became an issue with us so I know communication and openness are crucial. If this is at all possible, that you are “this much” and he’s “this much minus N,” (not that this is math) what if you wait a while and see what he does? The other question is: is he really passionate? He may be slow to make the first move, but 100% passion can be all the cure.

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