Peace to you all…we transfer onto people the hopes and expectations that we want. We fall in love, many times, with someone who doesn’t even exist. When someone tells us goodbye or rejects us, we STILL are in love with the person that doesn’t exist, even though it looks like him/her, sounds like him/her…they are a construct of our hearts.

I asked my therapist, how long will I feel like this? She said it will take as long as it takes. You wouldn’t pick up a wounded bird and keep pulling on the broken wing asking, are you healed yet? Give yourself time, compassion, sleep, good food, some exercise…grief takes as long as grief takes. Don’t hold those tears in either…over time, you will get tired of it and gradually start to feel better.

I promise. We all promise. It’s so ironic we’ve all been there too…I get the feeling we here on the forum would never do that to each other!

With love, you are in my prayers.