I will. I did this a couple of years after she had passed. She spent the first two years in our house. She was brought in by someone of significance to see that her children were ok ( she left them with a friend the night of) and they all have mental health issues they were born with so she came to see them and her ex. She spent a lot of time playing. not with the kids but by herself. She would be seen sitting on the floor colouring and drawing and playing with toys or reading. There was nothing I could do and was made to leave her for a while. I then noticed she wasn’t here any more so did what you have suggested and wished her well. That was the end of it. Or so I thought. I have also done the second thing you suggested but didn’t realise I would need to do it again. So I will. Spent the day ‘cleaning house’ and will continue with the other when the children go to bed.
Thank you again.. I mean that in a bigger way than how it sounds. Hope we speak again. Deirdre