Hi Alice,

I think I can share something relevant to help. But, first, I agree that Ruminant gets stars for providing the information about codependency. *****

Ok (knuckle crack):

– My parents had major issues and I was a fixer of problems. Empathy. Hope.
– After they passed away, I went through my mid-life crisis. Opposite of peace.
– In hindsight, I ended up finding surrogates for them – people with similar major issues. Yeah, eek. Hope. Empathy.
– In each case, it took me months or years to realize what was happening. I ended the personal or professional relationships. Aha moments.
– Now I know my tendency. Some peace.
– I’m not in any personal or professional relationships like those. Although I recently had a close call. More peace.
– I’m focusing on my personal growth. Peace. Empathy. Hope.

Does this help?

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