Hi Steve,
I understand your pain and your down situation. My life especially my family life was shattered something like this several years ago when my wife said she wanted me to move out. There was no cheating, but she pushed me out and made me out to be a bad guy.
Without getting into the rest of my story, in summary what moved me ahead included:
– moving out
– moving away
– trying to stay in touch with my kids (she made this difficult)
– seeing a marriage counselor on my own (she would not go)
– seeing my doctor for adjustment disorder
– seeing a psychiatrist for adjustment disorder
– being with friends
– being with family
– going to the gym
– going through a really hard first year or two
– going through divorce
– going through several years before I healed (mostly)
– being patient for years for my kids to relate to me normally again
– going a few years before dating
– dating even though I said I was not totally ready
– taking several years to get my confidence back
– taking several years before my ex-wife and I could lose the anger and just talk normally, like about our kids.
It’s been about eight years now and I’m doing well.
I hope this helps.
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