Allison,

Congrats on the desire to grow spiritually, that’s a great one to have! 🙂 Consider that the view of “her” as agitating is something that is happening on your side. Such as, your inner Buddha would simply see her, have plenty of space for her to just be exactly who she is, and not be agitated. Snakes are snakes, trees are trees, some people do unskillful things, earth turns, etc. Why is it about you? Said differently, consider that if we watch a monkey in a zoo screetch and whine, we aren’t pulled in. When its a girl saying “you’re ugly, allison”, suddenly the mind is awash in thoughts, body in feelings.

To be rid of that, we can find forgiveness, that space that accepts people as they are. Who knows what chaos and trouble brought her to speak rumors and/or lies and/or gossip. Maybe her mom didn’t hug her enough, but it doesn’t really matter… her pattern hurts her, but doesn’t have to hurt you. Forgive her, and it erodes. Grab onto her words, her actions, as “all about Allison”, and it continues to agitate.

Namaste, dear sister, may your anger unwind into endless space.

With warmth,
Matt