I start with my usual disclosure of being a complete failure in my past relationships 🙂 So, you know, perhaps my thoughts on the subject aren’t very valid…

I think it depends on intention. You say that you don’t need to be in a relationship and that it just happens. Then what would be wrong with that? Assuming that you are being completely honest with yourself. As for love, I think it’s actually healthier to be able to continue loving as things evolve and people pass through your life. Don’t confuse love for being clingy or that if it doesn’t hurt like hell when it ends, it never was that important to begin with. Also, it sounds like for you love isn’t that complicated 🙂

I also don’t think that you have to be alone to figure things out. Besides, you can still have moments of isolation even if you are in a relationship. You still have your own privacy and your own thoughts and feelings and your own personal space. Why would you learn more about love when isolated than when with another person?

Why does this bother you? Do you feel like you are not growing as a person?