Hi BellyButton,

I can see why you’re still upset.

Maybe he got nervous about being in the relationship, or maybe the timing was bad. Or his history said he was not worthy. Etc. Then, given some time missing you, his feelings for you overcame the other thoughts or feelings, which may have been subconscious. His rudeness could have been the conflict showing.

Some questions:

How rude was he?

How does he handle pressure or a crisis? Have you seen him in other scenarios?

Can you forgive him?

Have you been able to forgive yourself in your life?

Advice: have a talk, uncomfortable as it will be, without drinking. Just a calm talk.

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