Hello & happy summer to you Big Blue!

What an excellent question you have posed!!! I’ve been mulling it over and can only speak for myself, but the 8 scenarios I listed below are when I think the sperm should recognize that there are other eggs in the ovary and quit chasing the one in question.

You know you should give up the chase when:
1. If you’ve met online and you’re getting to know one another, she sends back short replies that give you nothing to work with.
2. She friend-zones you by telling you that you’re such a nice guy and the woman that gets you is a lucky one.
3. If you’ve established a cadence of communication and it drastically changes.
4. You don’t receive a reply to a text, email or phone call within 24 hours…if she’s really into you but super busy, she’ll at least reply telling you she’s busy and let you know when she can reply properly.
5. She doesn’t show appreciation for niceties such as having a door opened for her.
6. She isn’t willing to reciprocate spending money on you…if you’ve bought dinner and the two of you decide to get coffee, if she’s really into you, she’ll want to buy.
7. She makes it unrealistically difficult to chase her by putting up walls. If you find that you are asking yourself, “What am I doing wrong??”, chances are it isn’t you…it’s her.
8. You are left wondering if she likes you after more than a month of consistent communication or dating.

To me, #s 4 & 5 are just common courtesies that either sex should extend to one another throughout a relationship. If they don’t, I consider their behavior just plain rude.

I hope this helps Big Blue…take care!

danaken